The 5 Essentials for Oral Sex on Phalluses (Penises, Dicks, Dildos)

marla renee
Jun 11
3 min read

"Oral sex is not a performance—it’s a partnership of pleasure." —Marla Renee Stewart

Whether you're sucking a real dick or giving oral attention to a favorite dildo, there’s an art and energy to oral sex that goes beyond technique. It’s about enthusiasm, creativity, connection—and, of course, care for your jaw afterward.

Here are the 5 things you really need to give oral sex the love it deserves (and maybe get a little love back).

1. Energy: Bring Your Full Self to the Experience

Let’s be real- oral sex takes effort. It's a physical task that requires breath control, facial engagement, and stamina. If you’re tired, overworked, or haven’t had a glass of water in hours, it’s hard to show up fully.

Pro tip: Prepare like you're about to do a sensual performance. Hydrate. Stretch your mouth a little. Shake off the day. Oral sex is a workout—and you're the headliner.

2. Enthusiasm: Want to Do It (Not Just Go Through the Motions)

Your partner can feel when you’re genuinely into it—and when you're just checking a box. Enthusiasm turns a good blowjob into an unforgettable experience. It tells your partner, "I want to be here, I want to taste you, I want to please you." There's nothing more boring than a goal-oriented, non-verbal BJ. Please don't do this.

Don’t fake it—find it. Connect to the power and pleasure of what you’re doing. This is about seduction, not obligation.

3. Creativity: Bring Your Playful Side to the Party

Oral doesn't have to be routine. Lick, slurp, kiss, hum, stroke. Use your hands. Incorporate toys, flavored lubes, temperature play, or eye contact. Try a new position. Make a performance out of it.

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Creative tip: Narrate your actions with dirty talk or mix in role play. Add blindfolds, music, or flavored condoms over dildos for sensory flair.

4. Seduction Learning Styles©: Use All the Senses

This is where your sexual skills can really shine. Use the Seduction Learning Styles© to create a multisensory oral (and hopefully, orgasmic) experience:

Auditory Lovers: Use moans, affirming words, and wet, seductive sounds. Let them hear your pleasure. (And if they're into the gag, give them that, too!)
Visual Lovers: Keep eye contact, dress up or get in your birthday suit, or use mirrors so they can see everything.
Tactile Lovers: Focus on touch—use your hands in rhythm with your mouth, cup the testicles or base, or massage thighs and perineum.

Tap into their dominant seduction style for oral that feels custom-made and enhanced by your own personal sexual assets.

5. Recovery: Love on Your Jaw Afterward

Oral fatigue is real. Your jaw, neck, and even your back might feel it afterward. It’s important to recover so you’re ready to go again another day.

Recovery rituals:

Gentle jaw massages
A warm washcloth or heating pad
Face yoga or light stretching
A sip of cold water or soothing tea
Vocal rest (if you’ve been humming, moaning, or talking dirty!)

Your mouth deserves TLC after putting in work. Make it a part of your connective aftercare.

Final Thoughts

Giving oral to a phallus—whether it's flesh or silicone—is more than a mechanical act. It's a dance of energy, creativity, intention, and connection. When you bring your full self to the act, rooted in pleasure and style, everyone leaves satisfied (including your jaw).

And remember—oral is not a chore, it’s a choice. Make it count.

Cheers to your sexual success!